Does anybody have a family member or relative who is late in sending birthday cards?

or any special occasion card -- most or all of the time





Also, have you sometimes gotten nothing at all even though you got a phone call and know they love you?





What do you think or how do you feel about this? Does it bother you or not matter?

Does anybody have a family member or relative who is late in sending birthday cards?
it doesn't matter if i get a belated birthday card.....a call instead of a gift...with so much going on in everyone's lives these days....seems like things are crazy for everyone....i'm just thankful when someone remembers at some point its my bd.....
Reply:I say better late than never. At least someone thought of you.


To me, it's usually the family members who don't get out much or just don't have that much to give anyway. Birthday wishes are fine with me (unless it's my husband, and he better remember on time and come up with some romantic dinner plans!)
Reply:I doubt my answer will be your choice for best answer, but I put it forth anyway.


Guess I am one of those individuals that never really thought that birthdays are big thing for teenagers or adults. I rarely send them, except on special birthdays like 16,18, 40, and 80. In my opinion, it is a greater gift to share ones time with them than give them a gift or a card.


Most of the individuals in my family know my feelings on this issue, so I have not received any cards from anyone other than my great grand-kids in over 30 years.


And it has never bothered me, maybe because I was raised in a poor family where material gifts would have had to replace the mortgage payment or something else we really needed.


I also refuse to accept Christmas gifts that are not made by them. I prefer something like homemade cookies, or a original poem(they wrote), or a tape of them singing, or painting (they painted). But most of all the greatest gift is to sat down with them at Christmas and be part of their lives.
Reply:I take my Mom and Dad out to dinner on my Birthday. If not for them I would not be here. I don't care if the rest of my family remembers my Birthday. No big deal.
Reply:my mother, all my life we have either gotten unsigned birthday cards days late, or not at all, and last year was the topper......... 2 months late......... the year before it was a month early...... but always unsigned..........my two kids are still waiting........ she never remembers their birthdays..... my nephew just had his 17th birthday, not even a phone call........





It just disappoints me...... we've always known she didn't want kids...... it was plainly stated more than once, however, what gets me is she only has 4 grand kids...... can she not even make an effort for them?...... NOT


Just disappointment.........I'm passed being bothered except for the kids........ that bugs me.....
Reply:It bothers the hell out of me that my husband's parents never acknowledge my birthday, my kid's birthdays, or even my husband's and my wedding anniversary. But then I take a step back and remind myself that they are choosing to miss out on being a part of a pretty awesome family. Their loss--not mine.

skates