Are you offended by the type of birthday cards your husband gives you?

Does his sense of humor ruin the moment becuase of how bad the cards are?





I received two bday cards from hubby yesterday.That was it. Just cards. The first one is of people's face resembling butts and them blowing out the candles around a table...and the inside reads..Hope your birhday is a gas...





and the second one on the front reads...


"Do you know what it means to come home on your birthday to a guy who meets you at the door with a cocktail, draws youa bubble bath and makes you a gourmet mealwhile you are soaking in the tub?"


and the inside reads, "It means your in the wrong house"..





Do you have one of these husbands that makes you want to run away with the gabana boy down at the local hyatt hotel?

Are you offended by the type of birthday cards your husband gives you?
Yeah, I'd be pissed. I don't have a husband, but I can see exactly why the cabana boy is looking good right about now. haha





You should deprive him of certain things for a while, if you know what I mean. haha Just a little discipline or so.
Reply:No. I have all of the cards he ever gives me saved, 12 years worth of them. They will make nice memories later on.
Reply:So...you have a husband who remembers your birthday?





That's definitely a strength. Maybe you should be looking for those, instead of looking for the gray instead of the silver lining.





TALK TO HIM. You sleep in the same bed with him but you can't have an honest conversation about cards??????
Reply:If it were me I would tell him that my feelings were hurt and that I might seriously think he is giving me a hint! I would ask him is he happy with the relationship and tell him that I am not...Pull up his socks, Shape up or ship out!
Reply:I don't get cards so I don't know. My husband buys me computer parts (that I didn't know I needed). Ha Ha, he also buys me other gifts, but mostly computer stuff.
Reply:what i think is u need to lighten up a little bit. Cards are stupid anyway because it costs like 6 dollars to say happy birthday. I laughed when i just read those cards and u should be happy your husband has a good sense of humor. By the way i am not married and i am a guy.
Reply:Really, I don't think he means any harm...sounds like he just has a strange since of humor. I bet he is like that with almost everyone:-) I would just talk to him and tell him that you would like more romantic things.....maybe a funny card and a romantic one:-) When I buy cards for my hubby, that is what I usually do:-)
Reply:Guys seem really intimidated by greeting cards, and that's not the only thing!!! Even if they are committed they may not chose wisely. Probably because they are not emotional beings, so it is hard to see how you feel about it. He may not even read the cards you give him, and just toss them aside.


Last year I had been dating a guy for a month and his birthday rolled around, so I got him a humorous card that complimented his "rear", and a framed photo. At that stage I thought it best to be humorous. I am not sure he even read the card, but he complimented me on giving him a photo.


One month later, he began asking what I wanted for my birthday saying he had some bath gel left over from Christmas he could give me (good grief!)....that really told me a lot. I hinted that I wanted him to pick flowers from the roadside for me, but he just didn't get it. I got no gift or card, instead it was dinner out as usual.





When I told him later that I had hinted about what I wanted, he said "Guys don't get it unless you tell them, they aren't mind readers". Then he grabbed two flowers out of the yard and handed them to me.





I think that kind of says it all. They just don't get it. So just tell him that the cards are funny, but you really like the romantic types the best. Then gently remind him before the next holiday.
Reply:Yes I so know what you mean on this one. One time when I actually got a gift instead of cards it was two pair of mini mouse undies. I'm like WTF? And last year on my bday he got me a card and was so excited that I read it to my whole family at my bday dinner. I opened it and he was smiling like he thought he was just the most romantic man in this world. He asked me to read it...I'm like, "You sure?" "YES" So I read it and it's a congratulations on your new baby card. His face turned a few hundred shades of red. But yeah when you are expecting something more than a silly card! A little romance would be nice.
Reply:I guess if I just got a card, I would be happy, no matter what it said.
Reply:Wow, guess you don’t care for a little wacky sense of humor huh? There are a few ways you could choose to look at this. (Witty)That he gave you some off beat funny cards in an attempt to make you laugh. (semi serious)Your husband may not be the most romantic guy, but he thought of you on your birthday. (up tight/disappointed) My husband doesn’t know me at all and makes me want to run away with the cabaña boy at the local hotel.


My guess is that you two are most likely not as connected as you would like? That you would have preferred that he “tap in” to who you are and surprise you with something uniquely wonderful and romantically inspired? You may need to straight out tell him. If he is anything like me, he doesn’t have the 1st clue you are up set about this. Sit him down and talk it out. Good luck.
Reply:You can only get offended if you allow yourself to get offended. In otherwords, just let it slide right off you and look at it from another point of view. At least he sent you a card (ohh two).


If we are disusing a question of bad taste..defiantly





yes the gabana boy sounds good is he cute?
Reply:At least he bothered to remember your birthday. That is a start.
Reply:LOL...you picked him!
Reply:Sounds like a dream husband! He probably also thinks it's funny to give you a Dutch Oven. Eh, you married him, right?